Wednesday, October 15, 2008

I am taking a stand for my daughter's education!

What parent doesn't cry inside when their child has lost all interest in going to school? First grade has seemed more like a boot camp than an enriching environment. Concerned about what mught be going on, I spent the day in First Grade. There were 6 education blocks. 4 of them were reading and writing, one was math, one was science. I wondered when they have art, PE, music. It looks like they get 20 minutes of each of these activities once a week. But the good news is that the school is in the top percentile on the standardized tests! Arggh!

My first inclination was just to supplement her public education with extra-curricular activities. But by the time she gets home from school, she can do nothing but veg out. No errands with mom, no walks to the park, sometimes doesn't even want to watch a movie. Where did my daughter with boundless energy go? She comes home from school mentally exhausted. I don't care about passing any tests, but I want my child to have a love for learning. The desire to learn something new should never end. I have done all the research and I think at the start of the new year we are taking a stand to be full-time facilitators in our daughters learning. We plan on homeschooling through the school district where she will meet with a teacher every 21 days. They also pay for all the extra-curriculum activities for your child, and I have found a meet-up homeschooling group that meets for fieldtrips and activities every week. There are 8 families right here in Citrus Heights who have 6 year old daughters.

Everyone has brought up their concerns about the socialization of my only child if I educate her at home. My question is to you, would you rather have your child be able to learn to communicate with people of all ages or to fit in well with just children their age. Think about the average middleschooler, they spend the day talking with other 13 year olds, pretending to be too cool to hear what an adult has to say, then they get home from school and call other 13 year olds on the phone, maybe do some homework, then go hang out with other 13 year olds. Maybe they squeeze in some communication with their parents and siblings for some variety. Homeschool children have much more time to meet with various ages of children on field-trips, run errands with mom (I encourage her to count out the money at the register or place orders with workers), have time to volunteer to help the elderly or other needy, and learn about the society around them, not just the world of a 13 year old. I have never had someone tell me that my child is unsocial, unarticulate, unruly, or disrespectful. These weren't skills she learned at school. We are homeschooling our children from the time they are born. The only additional skills she has learned from school is what we consider bad habits. She has learned teasing, excluding others, and even how to take a punch in the stomach. Some people would refute that taking a punch is a life skill, but I think kindergarten is a little young to learn that lesson. (Maybe I will smack her around in a few years so she doesn't miss out on that life lesson...j/k) The point is that children learn socialization skills from adults not from other children who act badly. That is not to say that there aren't adults out there that act worse than children.....but that is a whole other blog post I won't get into right now.

In the meantime, I am doing all the research and will update this blog to show off the curriculum I have put together for my daughter to make her a lifetime learner not a lifetime test taking robot.

6 comments:

fuelMybrain said...

Well, you know my feelings on this subject and APPLAUD you!!!

I also applaud you for making it work while also supporting your husband's education. You are wise in the sense that you have put your family first!!! Your schedule reflects as closely as possible to a full time stay at home mom. I envy your education and can't wait until I'm in that position.

Allison will LOVE her home schooling and YOU will too. Teaching is so enjoyable!!!

I'm happy for you and your decision. I wish I could go back to homeschooling my girls but it's just not in the cards for me. :-(

Melissa Wells said...

I am excited because i met two moms today who have been homeschooling their kids and love it. We have some playdate scheduled and they have recommended some fantastic resources. I am getting so excited!They are just normal families wanting the best education for their children.

Jessica said...

So I know this post is a few months old and that you don't know me, but I just had to post and say that I think homeschooling your daughter is a fabulous idea. A couple of my sisters homeschool and their kids are doing fantastic. They both homeschool their kids using a Thomas Jefferson Education approach. They have a blog with some other homeschoolers if you are interested. It's http://tjedtrenches.blogspot.com/

fuelMybrain said...

Ok lady! It's time to start blogging dang it!

fuelMybrain said...

k, next time I see you I am going to tie you down and make you blog!!!!

fuelMybrain said...

OK, how about this... If you don't blog, I'm not gonna come out and play. :P Come on, pretty please?